You really need to step out of your comfort zone and begin doing things and living a life that you could have never imagined. However, stepping out of your comfort zone means is asking for help. It reveals a strength about us when we drop our ego and we ask for help.
Why we don’t ask for help
It’s ironic that during the times when we need it the most, we are the most stubborn or reluctant to ask for help. Sometimes it’s pride. Maybe you grew up in a family where a mother or father said, “We don’t ask for help, we do things that our own. We pull ourselves up by our bootstraps; we don’t ask for help.”
Sometimes it’s also fear, the fear of being needy, the fear of imposing your needs on somebody, the fear of being imperfect.
Maybe it’s the fear of rejection. You ask for help and then somebody rejects the idea. Maybe it’s the fear of being thought of or revealed as an impostor. Maybe you feel that other people have it so much worse than you, so who are you to ask for help. It can be a number of reasons. Why should we tough it out when we can reach out? Everyone is better off when we do that.
The answer to any question that you don’t ask is “No,” so ask the question and ask for help. Why juggle your frustrations that you’re feeling when you could ask for help? Why bang your head against the wall out of frustration, when you could ask for help? Have that problem that won’t go away? Why not ask for help? Why keep doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results, when you could ask for help?
We all have different gifts and talents that should be available to each other. We all have connections. The world is one big network. We all have a different perspective, insights, skills and resources. Why not ask somebody for their help, skill, resource or perspective?
What do you need help on? Is your health suffering and you want to know more about calories and carbs or eating gluten free or new routines at the gym and managing your health, then ask for help. Go to one of those people who has that skill, talent or gift.
Maybe you are struggling in business. Maybe you have all of these ideas, but you don’t know how to filter them and get started. Maybe you need to get out of debt, maybe you need a plan B or you need an extra stream of income, then reach out to that person who knows about that opportunity.
Maybe you need help in relationships, how to communicate, how to compromise or how to set boundaries. Ask somebody who knows about those things and ask them for help.
Maybe you need help navigating life, maybe you are in a transition stage, maybe you are now an empty nester. Maybe you are heading back into the workforce and are lacking confidence. Maybe you are needing help with being organized. Ask for help.
Here are some basic steps you can take when you do decide to drop the fear, pride or ego and seek assistance:
No. 1 : Be clear about what you need
Write down all the things that are bothering you or you’re frustrated about, so when you ask for help you have a clear plan.
No. 2: Choose carefully who you ask for help
There are many people out there who can assist you. Find one person or several people who you think can check all the boxes of what you need.
No. 3: Ask for help early
Don’t let your situation begin to look like a volcano when the ground starts to shake and then the lava is spewing out and it is too late.
No. 4: Reciprocate
The world is a big network. You have gifts and talents that somebody else may not have, so reciprocate. We’re all in this together.
It’s a new year. What thing or things do you need help on? I wrote some things down last night. What are the things that I need to hone my skills and who do I know who can help me? That’s exactly what I do as a business owner. I lead a big team and as a life and business coach, I also coach people on those things. Drop the pride and ego and be ready to ask for help.
What are you going to do in this new year? What are you going to ask for help on? Comment below. I would love to hear from you.