Do You Like Your Reflection?
How often do you look at yourself in the mirror and wish you were someone else? A friend of mine from the gym was recently talking to me about how dissatisfied she was with herself. She looked at herself in the mirror and didn’t like what she saw one bit.
This truly saddened me. I was once that person – I couldn’t stand myself or where I was in my life. It saddens me now that we waste precious moments on this earth by not liking who we see in the mirror, both physically and on the inside.
One of the best gifts you can give someone is to take what you’ve learned and pay it forward to someone else so they don’t make the same mistakes. Since I enjoy talking about topics I’ve personally struggled with, I wanted to share some wisdom on this topic today and work through an exercise together that may help you think about this topic more and get to the bottom of why you don’t like what you see.
Creating an Imaginary You
I want you to pretend for a second that you are someone completely different from who you are right now. If you could be someone else, what color eyes would you give yourself? What color hair? Would it be thick, fine, wavy, curly, straight? How tall would you be? What would your personality be like? Would you be an introvert or extrovert? What would you gifts and talents be? What would your strengths be?
Now, think about this imaginary person you’ve concocted. Is this person like you in any way? Or did you create someone completely opposite from yourself that you don’t even recognize?
Who is that woman you just created in your mind? Who is that woman you WORSHIPPED in your head? I know the term WORSHIP might sound like a stretch, but you DO worship that person because you wish you were her.
I have news for you – that person you wish you were, is a LIE. They are not real. That person needs to be destroyed. That lie needs to be squashed. That person is NOT YOU. It’s not who He created YOU to be!
We Are Perfectly Imperfect
When you came into this world, you looked a certain way, and you had gifts and talents inside of you ready to be developed as you got older. Everything about you was, and still is, exactly the way they should be!
We need to stop striving for imaginary perfection. Perfection will ALWAYS be out of our reach and unattainable. We are all perfectly imperfect!
Striving to be this imaginary person will NOT bring joy to your life. You’ll always find yourself trying to get to the next step and never have peace because you’re acting like someone you’re not. Perfection is not, and will never be, attainable.
Repeat this mantra to yourself…you are mighty just the way you are, you are unique, you are valued, you are worthy, and the world would not be the same without you!
The Why Beneath the Why
In my business I’m often coaching people on finding the reasons WHY they’re doing something. Why are you starting your own business? Why are you setting a certain goal? Sometimes your WHY can be the hardest thing to come up with, but often the most difficult to uncover is the why beneath the why. There’s usually another why under your why, and I don’t have that answer – you do!
If you don’t like the person you see in the mirror, you MUST get to that WHY in order to change your mindset and start liking that person again. Start small and think of ways to improve your self-image. Please, don’t ever go through it alone either – reach out to me and I’ll help you see yourself the way He created you – perfectly imperfect!
