Be a River, Not a Reservoir: The Importance of Sharing Your Struggles with Others

Sometimes I think downplaying our struggles and pretending that things are just hunky-dory is a default setting ingrained in us.   Don’t let them see you cry, complain, stumble, or mess up can be our default setting. This attitude is wrong!     In reality, the wisdom we acquire from studying, learning, struggling, and messing up can be … Read more

Use the Hours, Don’t Count Them: 10 Tips to Make the Most of Each Day

Recently I was listening to S-Town, one of my favorite podcasts, and I learned that many sundials have mottos on them.  Mottos like: Do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of. Time is flying, never to return. We are traveling each towards his sunset. Make the passing shadow serve thy … Read more

Are You a Thermostat or a Thermometer?

Are you changing the culture or is the culture changing you? To say 2020 has been one for the record books would be an understatement.  Not only has COVID rocked our world, now we can add rioting and name-calling candidates to the fray.     In the midst of all of this craziness do you feel like … Read more

Kindness: The Key to Peace of Mind and a Happy Heart

“Three things in human life are important; the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”  Henry James Here we are smack dab in the middle of a global pandemic. Quarantining, viral tracing, mask mandates, and hybrid learning fill our news feeds. To top it … Read more

Change Doesn’t Have to Be Hard: How a Change in Perspective Can Help

Empty nesting. Losing a job. Starting a new one. Downsizing. Divorce. Change can be hard and it can be painful.   Some people — er, like me at times — look at change negatively. They resist change because they believe they will lose something of value or fear they will not be able to adapt to … Read more

Garbage In, Garbage Out: How to Protect Your Mind From Negative Input

Recently I decided to take a fast from the media. No reading the local newspaper, no talk radio, no CNN or  Fox News.  I’m normally a “let’s make some sweet lemonade” kind of girl, but lately after reading, listening to and watching all the “junk” I found myself wanting to throw some lemons. And a … Read more

Don’t Let Doing Scary Things Scare You

My thoughts on doing scary things… Maybe not always seeing the BIG PICTURE is a part of the plan.  Maybe barely seeing what’s a few feet in front of us is part of the process.  Maybe questioning our ability is part of growing. If we knew what was going to happen in the next hour, … Read more

The Absurdity of Caring What Everyone Thinks

It is really absurd to care what everyone thinks. You have a plan, goal or dream and you are so excited about it, but you are worried and are caring what everyone will think. Who is everyone really? Seriously. Name the people who you think really, really care what you are doing. Who are those … Read more

Beliefs Worth Quitting: How to Beat the Mind Game and Live a Purposeful Life

Let’s talk about beliefs.  Specifically beliefs we need to let go of. There’s a popular saying that warns us that the biggest problems we face won’t come from what we know, but rather from what we know to be true that isn’t true at all.  (feel free to read that again). For years I believed … Read more