8 Things I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old Self

Saying Goodbye

Today I have something on my heart that I just can’t get off. I had the privilege recently of saying goodbye to someone in my family who is going to pass away soon. It was very emotional, and I’ve never done that before. While it was extremely emotional, it was also so rewarding…who doesn’t want to tell someone how much they love them or how much they mean to them when they still have the chance, before it’s too late?

At the risk of getting too mushy on you, this really made me think about how precious life is. So I came up with some things that I wish I could go back in time and say to my 20-year-old self.

I get emotional thinking about how I don’t want to have any regrets in my life. I want to take the last part of my life and really say goodbye to some things that have been holding me back. So without further ado, here is my list of 8 things I wish I could go back and say.

The 8 Snippets

1. First and foremost, I would tighten the borders around me. I just did a video on this the other day. What I mean is, to really put some parameters to what I’ll say yes and no to. I need to set boundaries. I don’t want people or situations to bulldoze over my comfort zone anymore, so I would put borders around my sacred items that you just can’t touch.

2. To learn to walk as my own friend instead of my own critic. I spent so many years being my own worst enemy. We often are so quick to criticize ourselves instead of taking our own hand and being a friend to ourselves. I would become a companion to myself instead of comparing myself and wishing I would have done better.

3. To start to do some introspection and make peace with some wounds and brokenness that I’ve had. I wish I would have made peace with these things a lot sooner, instead of living with rear mirror thinking. Make peace with your today. Heal your wounds before it’s too late.

4. To realize that it’s not my job to keep other people happy. Happy is a weird word anyway, don’t you think? Happy is fleeting and temporary. Joy is forever. But it’s not my job to make you happy, that’s yours. I’m not here to make everyone else happy. When I do, I quit being Lynn – the real me.

5. Sometimes finding your voice is way better than keeping the peace. Because when you’re always being a peacekeeper and losing your voice, you lose who you are. You have a voice and an opinion, and you shouldn’t be afraid to speak it.

6. I would resign myself as a ruler of my world and realize that I am not in charge. I don’t run my universe. There’s someone else who does. The fact is you can’t be anxious and grateful at the same time. You can think you are, but they don’t go together in your heart. Anxiousness and gratitude just don’t mesh.

7. The sun has set on yesterday. You can’t get it back, but you can live for today. So stop practicing rear view mirror thinking. Stop dwelling in the past. The sun has set, and today is a new day.

8. I’ve always been a generous person, but I’d tell myself to be even more generous. There’s a saying that goes, “You get fuller by feeding others.” When I give to others, it truly fills me up inside. We’re all a work in progress. But I’m working on it.

So there they are. The 8 things I’d tell my younger self if I could go back in time. What would you tell yourself?

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